Saturday, October 27, 2012

Pumpkin Patch Picspam!

Look at the glorious alliteration in that title! on a happier note than my last post,

I went to the pumpkin patch to get pumpkins and celebrate a Fall Festival!

It was very fun and I took lots of pictures!

Pumpkins first!

Look at the little Bee! So cute!

We also saw a petting zoo. Being an avid animal lover I just had to check them out.

My favorite was the tortoise! he was so large and funny when kids went to pet him, he just munched on grass, completely oblivious.

There was also sheep and goats but they didn't want any face shots and I felt my followers would not want Sheep butt in their face.

And I hope you enjoyed my picspam, Another is soon to follow!

Bats and Kisses,

Lady Zendra

Depression and Goths

Now it is a common stereotype that goths are  "Just so depressed"

Most people assume that because those of us who like to be part of the subculture are depressed individuals due to the fact we wear a lot of dark colors, we often like morbid things and etc. Most of us know that is just untrue, some of the happiest people tend to be those who are alternative in nature.

But it isn't completely untrue. I know from experience that Depression is a mental illness that can affect anyone even one of us within the subculture.

How do I know? well I've suffered from depression since I was young, about 12.

For those of you who are lucky enough not to be bothered with depression, I'll describe it to you.

Imagine being happy for weeks, months even. Then one day you wake up, your heart is heavy, you can't help but think of every insult ever thrown at you, you feel like crying but you snap angrily at loved ones,You hate who you see in the mirror, all you want to do is sit on the couch with a tub of chocolate swirl ice cream watching Law and Order: SVU marathons or Wedding shows on TLC.

And those are only the emotional aspect, it can also affect your physical self as well.

Sometimes the thought of eating actual food is sickening and makes your stomach curdle, You don't feel like getting up out of bed so all you do on your day's off is sleep, your eyes are puffy from crying ( I cry alot when I have episodes) You gain weight from what little comfort food your stomach allows (which does not help self-esteem and body image)

These spells of depression can last weeks and occasionally months.

The feeling of hopelessness can be often crippling.


But being part of the subculture, I know the one thing we as goths hate are stereotypes assumed of us.

However I am making this post because I want to say that just because it is a stereotype assumed of goths, doesn't mean that there are not some goths that are affected by this mental illness.

Bats and Kisses,

Lady Zendra

This is me during depression.

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Lets all send healing vibes and best wishes

Today I read Allison Paige Eckfeldt's latest post

I cried

I am making this post so we can all send her healing vibes and encourage her through this rough time.

I know we cannot all understand the feeling of losing our soulmate but I just cannot sit by why someone is in pain.

leave an encouraging comment on the post

leave her nice comments on her youtube account.

you can also leave messages on her facebook and tumblr

lets try and encourage a fellow goth during these tough times.

  Thank you everyone. :)

Bats and Kisses,

Lady Zendra

Pic Spam!!!!

So a friend of Terri ( Andrew, My Boyfriend's mom) had a friend who needed help setting up her ipod. So being ipod savvy, I managed to set it up and what not.

She was very pleased and yesterday Terri brought me home a bag of goodies that her friend had made for me to say thank you.

inside was a ton of Halloween things!

Bat Tinsel

I love it and after some coaxing, I managed to get Andrew to help me hang them up!

Plastic Glitter Spiders

She also gave me two packs of glittery spiders! one pack had silver, they other black. I hung them all around the top of the window and on our ceiling fan.

Are they not adorable!

 She also gave me a little scarecrow, he has a little raven on his shoulder. he has taken up permanent residence on my bat sign with another little silver spider.

And here are some other little things around my room.

My red and black mask. I like to wear it around the mall at times. Rapheal is rocking it at the time.

My witchy teddy that Andrew got me. He hasn't got a name yet but I will have one soon.

My MLP mystery figure pack figures. with my home made goth doll Shiloh in the background.

So thats just a bit of a picspam. and also at work we make a halloween arrangement with ghosts and cats and bats. well.....

we made a black ghost.

Edible Arrangements is now and forever officially integrated!

Thanks everyone, that will be all.

Bats and Kisses,

Lady Zendra

Sunday, October 21, 2012

Styles of the Gothic Subculture: Babydoll Goth

Also known as 'School Girl Goth'. Baby doll goths look like creepy children. I don't know if this is what they go for but in my opinion it looks cool on those who can pull it off


This is a very female dominate style. Most girls and women incorporate School girl skirts, usually pleated and plaid ones. Blouses, striped tights and fishnets are common staples of clothing. I would recommend a toned down version of this look for students who have uniforms they have to wear. Some Lolita inspired clothing is often seen as well.


Accessories for this style include suspenders, lace or fishnet gloves, studded belts. sometimes the wearer likes to attach baby doll limbs, heads or other things to clothing or use as
necklaces. Lolita accessories are seen as well as more Punk accessories.

Shoes are typically chunky Mary-jane shoes, Demonia style boots and creepers.Much like Lolita.

Makeup is typically dark with some lighter colors. lipstick is often used and usually the makeup is used to add a creepy tone to the look. Hair is typically worn in pigtails and ringlets but dreads are fairly common as well.

Makeup can also be simple looks such as Jennifer Parkin's look (also known as Ayria)

  Music typically listened to among those of this style usually has a sweet sound but with a dark, twisted edge. Bands popular among baby doll Goths include but are not limited to: Switchblade Symphony, The Birthday Massacre, Hannah Fury, Alice in Video-land, Ayria, The Candy Spooky Theater, Emilie Autumn and The Divine Madness.

Hope this is informative, 

Bats and Kisses, 

Lady Zendra

Friday, October 19, 2012

New Phone + life update

Sorry for not posting so much lately. I've been going through some personal upheavals and such so Blogging is not on my mind as much. But I promise I'll post some new material soon.

Also, I got a new phone. this is my first big purchase since moving out and I am so very happy right with it.

He's just a simply little TracFone but I have named him Discord and He is so far doing his job wonderfully.

As far as life go, Family issues have surfaced once again and dealing with them is proving to be difficult.

I promise a proper post soon.

love you all.

Bats and Kisses,

Lady Zendra

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Goth Music: Goth Rock, Post punk, Batcave, New Wave and Dark Wave

So this is going to be a bit of a guide to Goth music. Hopefully I can give some information to those of you who read my blog. I also advise that if anyone feels I get information wrong feel free to comment and correct me. I will fix the mistake.

The Gothic Subculture has a very large and forever evolving music scene. It not only uses genres such as the above but it also borrows from other types of music, causing it to become a melting pot of many different other subcultures and genres such as Punk( I actually have a brother who is part of this scene), Industrial, Metal, Classical, Indie; even Grunge and Country. ( Which I happen to love country, My Boyfriend's a down-home southern boy so you learn to love it.)

With new bands emerging every year, it isn't surprising.

We are a subculture of many facets and faces, it's no wonder that we like to have options when it comes to our music. Although the label of Goth music still applies.

Because Goths themselves are interested in and enjoy listening to all those dozens of genres, magazines, DJ's and clubs have picked up on this and tend to review and play a mix of different styles in addition to what we consider 'Goth Music'. Basically whilst listening to rock or metal does not make you a Goth by subculture terms, it doesn't make you less Goth either.

  •  Gothic Rock
Often reffered to as Gothic Rock, This genre came after the Punk movement. It combines keyboard and guitar based music with moody and often introspective lyrics. they also use a Drum machine as opposed to actual, live drum making the beat very hypnotic and almost tribal at times.

Examples of bands in this genre are:
  • The Sisters of Mercy 
  • The Mission
  • Fields of Nephilim
  • Skeletal Family
  • Rosetta Stone
  • The March Violets

  • Post-Punk
Post Punk, sometimes called Positive Punk. This was a music genre that developed from the punk genre in the late 1970s and led to an evolution of Gothic Rock. Although clearly influenced by what I call True Punk, Post-punk is more complex than True Punk music, incorporating the use of synthesizers along with some Dub influence as well.

In the early 2000's there was a Post-Punk revival. This lead to many new Post Punk bands. However, The revival has not been as popular with the Gothic Subculture.

Examples of Post-Punk bands are:
  • Siouxsie and the Banshees
  • The Cure
  • Bauhaus
  • Joy Division
  • New Model Army
  •  The Birthday Party
Examples of Post- Punk revival bands are:
  • The Editors
  •  Doll Factory
  •  Placebo
  • We Are Scientists

  • Batcave
The Batcave was one of the first Goth clubs in London.  the word 'Batcave' now used to refer to Goth music with a  post-punk or death-rock inspired sound, like the bands who were regulars at the Batcave in the 80s. 'Batcaver' is a term that  refers to fans of this type of music.

Examples of Batcave are:
  • Specimen
  • Alien Sex Fiend
  • Sexbeat
  • The Venomettes
  • Ausgang
  • Voodoo Church
  •  Naughty Zombies.

  • New Wave
  Emerging in the 70s alongside punk and soon was considered a genre in its own right. It incorporates elements of Electronic, Disco and even 60s pop as well as traditional punk elements. Combining Choppy guitar with heavy emphasis on keyboards and "geeky" sounding vocals.

Examples of this genre are:
  • New Order
  • The B-52s
  • Altered Images
  • Depeche Mode
  • Lene Lovich
  • early Gary Numan
  • Oingo Boingo
  • Sigue Sigue Sputnik

  • Dark Wave
Dark-wave took the basic principles from Post-Punk and New Wave and added the moody and gloomy lyrics of Gothic Rock. Dark-wave continued into the 90's as an underground movement amongst German bands, and several U.S. bands combined elements of other genres such as trip-hop(a genre consisting of down tempo electronic music) and Electronic dance music to create a more modern Dark-wave sound.


Hope you get some interesting information from this entry. Also feel free to comment on any mistakes you feel I made and I will look into it.

Bats and Kisses,

Lady Zendra

Monday, October 15, 2012

Goth/Un-goth Confessions

What you all have been waiting for ( all 7 of my followers xD) My Goth/Un-goth Confessions!

 just a disclaimer: Any Hurtful or Offensive comments will be deleted with no response.

So Onward!


  • I listen to Bands that aren't considered goth. I love Journey, KISS, Nickelback, Fall Out Boy, and Celtic Women.
  • I like singers who are not goth as well. Demi Lovato, Bruno Mars, Bryan Adams, and quite a few country artist.  
  • I am a Major Gleek, I love glee and all the songs they sing on the show.                                
  • I love Hello Kitty. I think she is just adorable!                                                                                
  • I have been a MAJOR Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle fan since I was 9.                                
  • I get depressed quite a lot. for reasons why view my Pride and Prejudice: A personal tale entry                                                                                                                                          
  • I LOVE My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic.                                                                              
  • I have never had a Picnic in a cemetery. I fact I haven't  been in one since I was 3.                  
  • My favorite cartoon to this day is Pound Puppies.                                                                         
  • I sleep with a stuffed animal. He's a turtle with a red mask named Raphael. (smiley face to everyone who gets the reference)                                                                                           
  • I love Pokemon ( My favorite is Lucario)                                                                                    
  • I am a major geek. I love Comic books, superheroes and Manga ( My favorite hero is Spider-man (Marvel) and Wonder Woman (DC)                                                                            
  • I hate it when it's dark out and I'm all alone.                                                                              
  • I have a very Pathological fear of thunder. I do not like it and I hide from it.                        
  • I am never bitchy, I simply cannot be mean to another human unless they really piss me off. which is a VERY rare thing.                                                                                                          
  • I do not like it when people shave off their eyebrows and draw them on. I think it only looks good on a few people. (I am not one of them)                                                                    
  • I do not like Horror Films. they give me nightmares.                                                              
  • I think Scene Kids and Emo kids look kind of adorable sometimes. they can also be very nice.                                                            ____________________________________________________________
Hope you all enjoyed that little post. I will post some info on Music tomorrow.

Bats and Kisses,

Lady Zendra

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Shopping Haul: Saturday and Sunday

I did a little shopping today and I decided to post what I've gotten. October has to be the best time for me to do all my shopping for really cool stuff.

Makeup of the day. some dark blue with black eyeliner.

Just tried to keep it simple with some red lip gloss. Lipstick is a little too heavy for my tastes so I usually tend to save it for special occasions.

So the first stop was the mall and the Halloween stores to look at decorations for ideas for our theme. then we stopped at Hot topic and I got a few things.

The Two ponies I got in the hidden pony packs.

Andrew Bought this for me.

We also played around with the masquerade masks and I thought it was so fun. I might get one for Halloween.

 Aren't I pretty looking! We soon left after that so we could get home to help Andrew's mom. so that concluded Saturday's shopping experience.

Then today, Andrew's mother, Terri and I went out to have a girl's day out. I love Terri, she's warm and very accepting of me and my darker tastes. we went off to Pier 1 Imports and I got a very cute Hand Sanitizer that smells like Candy corn!

So cute. Then we headed to Jo-Ann Fabrics and a lot of their Halloween stuff was on sale! I got a couple of things.

I have been looking for a nice pair of Purple striped tights for AGES!!!! I can't wait to wear these! it will be very exciting for me.

I'm actually wearing these socks right now and Terri got a matching pair for Halloween and I am so happy about that.

We then went to Ross for some clothes shopping. I had to get some work pants so I got a couple pairs of black pants.

We then went to the Publix and I decided to stock up on tea and some other things.

And I found some Count Chocula cereal! I haven't eaten that since I was nine and I can't wait to enjoy it!

So I hope you all enjoy my ramblings and I will be posting Goth Confessions soon since they seem to have won the Poll!

Bats and Kisses,

Lady Zendra

Friday, October 12, 2012

Song Tag!

I have invented a tag!

I declare that all the people I tag must follow these rules.


The idea of the tag is to pick a song that describes you!  these are the rules:

  1. It must make you feel good to be you
  2. you must post a video containing the song
  3. you must post the lyrics after the video in a blog post.
  4. it can be any genre or artist. NO JUDGING. it doesn't have to be gothy if you choose not to use that type of music.
  5. the video containing the song can contain anything, it doesn't have to be a music video
  6. even if the video contains lyrics, still post them in the blog.
So I'll start.

My Song is: I Am by Hillary Duff

don't laugh.


I'm an angel, I'm a devil
I am sometimes in between
I'm as bad it can get
And good as it can be
Sometimes I'm a million colors
Sometimes I'm black and white
I am all extremes
Try figure me out you never can
There's so many things I am

I am special
I am beautiful
I am wonderful
And powerful
Sometimes I'm miserable
Sometimes I'm pitiful
But that's so typical of all the things I am

I'm someone filled with self-belief
And haunted by self-doubt
I've got all the answers
I've got nothing figured out
I like to be by myself
I hate to be alone
I'm up and I am down
But that's part of the thrill
Part of the plan
Part of all of the things I am

I am special
I am beautiful
I am wonderful
And powerful
Sometimes I'm miserable
Sometimes I'm pitiful
But that's so typical of all the things I am

I'm a million contradictions
Sometimes I make no sense
Sometimes I'm perfect
Sometimes I'm a mess
Sometimes I'm not sure who I am

I am special
I am beautiful
I am wonderful
And powerful
Sometimes I'm miserable
Sometimes I'm pitiful
But that's so typical of all the things I am

I am special
I am beautiful
I am wonderful
And powerful
Sometimes I'm miserable
Sometimes I'm pitiful
But that's so typical of all the things I am
Of all the things I am
Sometimes I'm miserable
Sometimes I'm pitiful
But that's so typical of all the things I am
Of all the things I am  


I tag:

CherryPieSuicide at Baking pies and Breaking Hearts 

Mmepolaire at Mmepolaire 

and my latest follower:

  Kitty Mayfair at Synthxdoll

try to do the tag. 

Bats and Kisses, 

Lady Zendra.

love you all!

Thursday, October 11, 2012

For Sebastian Columbine

I decided to draw a picture for Sebastian Columbine, who uploaded a rant video which you can see below. I wanted to try and cheer her up so I will be sending this to her on YouTube and blogger so hopefully she will see this and feel a little better.

And Sebastian, If your reading this. You are a amazing person! I love your videos and don't let a bunch of un-couth jerks who don't know an amazing individual when it walks by them.

Hope you like it!

and the video of Sebastian's rant.

Hope you feel better.

Bats and Kisses,

Lady Zendra
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