So Far So Great: Moving day preparations

Okay so my moving is going well. Today my boyfriend, Andrew, and I cleaned up his closet and room to make room for my things. :) it was so fun! 

First we cleared out his Manga and books and pushed all his clothes to the side. then we put up a hanging cubby for the closet, then we took off the doors of the cabinet where he keeps the T.V to make more room for me to get into my things in the closet.

Sorry it's blurry.

 After We made room in the closet, I had to hang up all my clothes. Not my favorite chore but still it had to be done. I made Andrew help.

I made a bit of a mess on his bed. You can barely see most of my things because of his black sheets, for someone who isn't involved with the Gothic subculture sometimes the things he likes makes me wonder. XD

Damien, my pride and Joy

My Laptop, Damien. He is busy playing my Pandora music, Playing "Hollow Hills" by Bauhaus. =) although Andrew kept trying to change it to his country stations. =P which I didn't mind but I was looking for more my things.

My boyfriend that I keep going on about. He said that around Halloween he'll take me to shop for some decorations for my shelves!!!! I'll definitely have to make a blog for that. =)

Sorry for the Picspam, but I am so excited to move. I'm already going to gothify his room with some curtains. he says he doesn't mind! some days I think he's just perfect.

Comment on any ideas for where I can get knick knacks for my shelves.

Bats and Kisses,
Lady Zendra

Daily outfit post.

I decided to post my outfit and make up for today. Because I can!

sorry my hair was still wet from a shower. but  i decided to be pretty lenient with makeup today. I bought that headband at a little boutique in town. I love my Kitty necklace my Boyfriend bought me at the Mummies of the World exhibit at MOSI.

Don't I look pretty. this is my plain black shirt and black lace skirt. I love the skirt and you can even see my "bat motel" sign that I hang by my bed.

sorry for the short post.

Bats and Kisses

Lady Zendra

Thank you for following!

So I want to thank Amy Asphodel, owner of the lovely blog Stripy Tights and Dark Delights and
Odd Ghoul Out owner of Bats in the Belfry, Cat's in the Attic for following me.

I personally enjoy their blogs and Amy is actually the one who inspired me to get into blogging. So thank you so much!

Odd Ghoul Out has currently helped me with a problem I'm sure many alternative adults have and the answer to my dilemma can be found Here. and thank you so much for your help!

Bats and kisses

Lady Zendra <3

Dating Non-goths

Even though I was a late bloomer to the subculture (I didn't get into it until I was about 17) I get asked very often by other goths "How do you date guys/girls not into the subculture?" believe it or not a few  of my non-goth friends ask this as well.

I have never dated within the subculture. I had a boyfriend during my starting years (I still consider myself a bit of a baby bat) but that lasted about 3 months. the boyfriend after that was 1 month long.

However, I was in a relationship for over a year. This guy was a non-goth but I made it work. Until he started to try and change my opinions on everything. He was selfish and overly opinionated, believing his opinions were always right. I tend to be a laid back person but when things I liked became "stupid." or "But that's so stereotypically Gothic, can't you form your own identity." is when I had enough.

I am in another budding relationship now, with a psychology major I met at my college. He is sweet and kind, as well as so laid back he doesn't care what I wear or like. He respects me and I respect him.

7that's the keyword "RESPECT" a relationship is give and take. The one your with needs to except your quirks and love of anything. I firmly believe that if your significant other hates what you like he cannot truly love you.

I found a good guy who (seemingly) excepts all my quirks. all you need is to find that one person who can look at what you wear and say "You look nice" even when most of the world would want to hang you for it.

Love,

Lady Zendra.

Decorating tips for the Budget Goth

In my Previous Post, I talked about things to do before a move. Now I wish to tell you some Gothy and Gruesome ways to decorate your new room, apartment, or home on a budget.

Black sheets and material goes a long way. use it as a table cloth to decorate that collapsible kitchen table. also put the material on end tables and nightstands. you can also put candles on the table or nightstands to add decoration. even your favorite little Knick-knacks and collectibles can be used to decorate.you can even drape a black sheet over your couch. My favorite thing to do is to take a black sheet and splash white paint on it. you can also to this to a white sheet with black or red paint. just make sure you splash the acrylic paint on the sheet OUTSIDE to avoid messes.

 Another thing to do is get little knick-knacks. such as sculls, fake spiderwebs, black lamps, gargoyle statuettes and etc. these can add a sense of gothiness if you place them right.


If you can, look out at thrift stores and charity shops for cheap couches, chairs or anything else that can be used for cheap. also look out for things you can modify to make more gothy.


I like to visit halloween stores or Walmart the day after Halloween to find things I can use for decorating on sale before they store it away.

check out this LeahMouse Video for some more ideas. She's pretty funny and I like her creative ideas.


Happy Decorating!


Love, 
Lady Zendra




   

Moving out soon

So at the end of this month I will hopefully be moving out of my parents house. I will be moving into my boyfriends house! I finally can get out of here.

now I decided to give some helpful hints for moving out. 

first thing to do is go through your clothes and bags and whatever else you can go through. You need to separate into three piles : Keep, Throw out, and donate. 

When you throw out things make sure it is completely unusable. garbage hidden in drawers, pieces of cloth, anything you don't want or can't donate.

when you want to donate articles of clothing or bags, make sure they're in good condition and can be worn. I like to donate clothes and books to the local goodwill and my bags often go to various family and friends. you can also recreate bags using parts from older bags. Stuffed animals can also be transformed into bags or purses

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lqyqnjr7NjA&feature=plcp

this is my favorite YouTube video on turning stuffed animals into bags. Kazlovesbats is amazing and I highly recommend you view her other videos as well. 

Now when you go to pack, everything will be condensed down and you will have only the things you absolutely want and need for your new place. I will list some decorating tips for a new place later on in another post. =) 

have a spooky day darklings, 

Bats and Kisses, 

Lady Zendra

Shit That annoys me: a rant

hello non-existent followers! today shall be a list of shit that annoys me! with that lets move forward

1) When even though your adult, your parents still insist that being a goth is "just a phase" or when they refer to your outfit of the day is "cosplay-esque" grrrrr

2) When your sister thinks that just because she doesn't like your style, she can sit and tell you you look ugly.

3) When your mother threatens to take your eyeliner because you forgot to do her laundry

4) When you spent 30 minutes perfecting your makeup and it rains buckets outside. -_-

5) when your sister steals your favorite shirt and didn't ask

6) Your mother freaks out about something you wear but you get compliments on it throughout the whole day...