On Helping Others Deal With Death

It was a relatively quiet day yesterday, Until Andrew's mother got that call. Her best friend since high school had died for unknown reasons.

Now Leslie, Her friend, had been suffering from lung cancer for years now. she was in pain and is no longer in pain. I met her once, she was nice and so full of life despite it all. But she has left behind a hole that neither her son, husband or friends know how to fill.

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What can you do when the others are suffering? When you don't know what to say or what to do, how can you help them with their own grief.

Leslie was like my boyfriend's aunt, he called her Aunt Leslie and she was a major part of his life. she was at every major event, every Christmas and holiday. I can only imagine the pain his mother was feeling, losing her best friend of 35 years.

The best thing to do is to be there, not constantly asking if they are okay. of course they aren't but quietly give them a shoulder to cry on.

when they stop crying, stay near. they may want to talk or cry again but be there. sometimes just keeping them company is the best thing to do.

Usually in the weeks that follow, people will gather and bring warm food and comfort. you should do the same. be helpful and bring them things they need or offer to go shopping with them.

be as supportive as possible and remember, time heals all wounds.

Bats and Kisses,
Lady Zendra