Goth challenge: day 4

4) Name a stereotype or cliche you can relate to.

I feel the stereotypes I relate to the most would have to be the "Goths are artists or musician." I like to draw and pursue artistic endeavors.

Me and Andrew as ponies

my pride and joy

some of my drawings and sketches. enjoy.

Bats and Kisses,

Lady Zendra

I finally finished moving!!!! (with a small rant)

So I finally moved into my Boyfriend's home. so far all is well, except for some minor parental issues.

My parents kicked me out since I decided to move out. It hurts a lot that they did that. It makes me feel unloved.

we had our clashes, we fought. But what kind of parent says "You want to move out and kick us to the curb." then completely cut you out from their life.

I'm giving them some time to cool down before I try to contact them. so wish me luck.

Bats and Kisses,

Lady Zendra

30 day goth challenge: day 3

day 3: when did you come out of the goth closet?

I never really came out of the goth closet...my friends just assumed I was goth and never made a big deal about it. My parents still don't realize I am gothic. they seem to be in denial and I just don't really feel like telling them if they haven't figured it out by this point. Hopefully they'll figure it out soon.

bats and kisses,

Lady Zendra

Goth Challenge: Day 2

2) share experiances and photos from your babybat days.

Thank goodness I have very few photos from my baby bat days.

Ex Boyfriend has been edited out

Sometimes I look back on my baby bat days and use bits of clothing from then. I embroidered that white skirt in the third picture and now it is one of my favorites.

When I first delved into the subculture, I thought I had to dress as "funky" as possible. I slowly learned how to dress classy but me. I feel the subculture gave me the freedom to be myself and still feel that sense of belonging.

when I joined the subculture, I found out who my true blue friends were. I think this helped me to be able to find the people I could be around. I discovered who was a good influence and who was a bad one. I also learned that my confidence comes from within.

bats and kisses,

Lady Zendra

30 day Goth challenge.

So I seem to be stuck at the moment with the clothing challenge, so I decided to join Odd Ghoul Out in her 30 day goth challenge from Juliet's Lace  so today is officially the first day.

Day 1) How did you come across the subculture?

Well when I was in high school, I had to switch schools 10th grade year due to a re-zoning. So when I went to my new high school I was already feeling a pull towards darker things. I was already a Tim Burton fan ( I was four when I first saw "Edward Scissorhands") I already loved darker things. I had never encountered "Goth Kids" until my first art class. I saw some goth kids and decided to talk to them. that was my first introduction to the Gothic subculture.

My Babybat years have been difficult. but I'd like to think my style has evolved. I can Thank my "sensei" of the gothic subculture. she was always very mature in dress, a mix of Victorian and fashion forward styles. Amanda was the one who introduced me to true Gothic music and showed me how to have style. she saw a potential gothy type and has groomed me into who I am today.

Thank you Sensei!

Bats and Kisses,

Lady Zendra

Youtube Stars: LeahMouse

So, I decided to start a series of blogs called Youtube Stars. This will be segments showcasing various gothy type Youtuber's who's video's I enjoy. I hope to help these youtuber's get even more notice. so with that enjoy.

LeahMouse is one of the funniest Youtube stars I watch. Her satires, jokes and just overall happy attitude makes me squeal with joy whenever she uploads something new.

Apart from her satires and parodies, LeahMouse has truly helpful videos about the Gothic Subculture. I find many of her videos both helpful and informative as well as just fun to listen to.

her opinions are fun to listen to and I find most of her videos to have good points. Although I especially enjoy her more fun and upbeat videos, her more serious videos can be just as entertaining.

I also enjoy her Vlog channel that just has her escapades through everyday life.


So if you liked these videos feel free to look through her channel.
LeahMouse

And her Vlog Channel
Vlog of LeahMouse

Hope you enjoy,

Bats And Kisses,
Lady Zendra

The Parent Dilemma

Like every Goth-ling, I too face the parent dilemma. the constant chorus of

"Your not going out dressed like that!"

"You'd look so pretty if you didn't wear your makeup so dark."

"black on black, are you depressed?"

Goodness how I hate these comments and the many more I tend to get from family. Many of them just fail to understand.

sometimes all everyone needs is to understand that not everyone is going to like your style. I often fail to understand quite a few of my parent's worries. The one thing to remember though is that all your parents want is for you to be successful. sometimes they think they know better and sometimes that's true. but always try to keep an open mind.

So when talking to your parents about goth, I found it's better to compromise than to fight. 

1. ask them if you keep your grades up, can you dress goth?
2. If they're worried about tattoos or dyeing your hair, tell them you'll wait till your 18 and have a job so you can pay for it yourself.
3. If they don't think your relatives will like it, just say how you'll tone down around them.
4. if they don't like music they think is "goth", show them some goth music they may know like The Cure, Bauhaus, The Smiths, or Siouxie and the Banshees.
5. Tell them you won't dress inappropriately. some parents worry their children may start to wear short skirts and fishnets. tell them you'll dress appropriately but in black. 
6. Let them know you are not depressed, doing drugs or getting in trouble. explain that you feel comfortable in the Gothic aesthetic. 
7. if they worry your makeup will be too extreme, try to say you're makeup will be simple around family and you won't over do it. 

I hope I've helped a little and I plan on making more posts like this with some actual advice but for now.


Enjoy!


Love, 


Lady Zendra.